Caring For Young Widows In Nigeria - Diane Kalu

Mar 24th, 2024 | Episode 284

In 2015, Diane Kalu was living in Nigeria with her husband and their three young children. One day, about eight weeks after the birth of their third child, Diane’s husband went to work and never returned. A few days later she got the news that he dad died. She was suddenly a widow, responsible for raising three children under the age of five, in a country with several widowhood customs and traditions that are harmful to women. Thankfully, Diane had her mother to help her survive those early days of widowhood. Then, about five years after her husband's death, Diane's mother also died. Through both of these losses, Diane discovered a lot about herself, including a passion for helping others. That led her to start the WiCare Lekota Foundation, an organization dedicated to supporting widows in Nigeria through social, emotional, financial, and educational support programs.

We discuss:

  • Grieving for her mother
  • Telling her children their grandmother died
  • How her mother supported her after her husband died
  • Grief brain fog and how Diane recovered her memory with singing & sticky notes
  • Widowhood customs & traditions that are harmful for women
  • The ways Diane broke with community expectations for widows
  • Pity vs. compassion
  • The mindset that helped Diane survive
  • What Diane's husband would think of who she is now
  • Starting the WiCare Lekota Foundation to support other widows

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